Taking Care of Relationships in life

HOW ARE YOUR PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS GOING?

FORGIVE me for asking you such an intimate question but following the pandemic and all that’s going on in the world right now it feels like a very important time to focus on relationships.

And I’m going to add a little twist… after all it’s not just our relationships with our Significant Other that are important but also our relationships with our children, our parents, our friends, and most of all our relationships with OURSELVES! Relationships are integral to the work I do with nearly all my clients and it might surprise you to hear that, once we resolve a person’s inner-dilemmas and relationship with themselves, other relationships generally fall into place far more smoothly.

What we learn as children about happy life-long relationships comes mainly from our parents and how they relate to each other and to us. But sadly these are not always positive lessons so sometimes as adults we need to consciously think about how we relate to those we love. Otherwise, even if we think we’re chugging along just fine we can be hit with nasty surprises in our relationships that perhaps we simply didn’t see coming.

So let’s look at 3 areas which can have the biggest positive effect on our relationships beginning with TIME. In the early days of our relationships we typically put plenty of time and effort into a relationship but once the “prey is caught” we often fall into the habit of coming home exhausted and irritable, collapsing with relief that “at least I can relax now and don’t have to make an effort”. Maybe we barely notice our partner in the chaos of dinner, kids activities and other domestic demands. Or maybe we have one child in a family whose needs seem to outweigh those of other family members so the other children or your partner get less attention as a result. If so taking action to redress the balance can really enhance the lives of everyone.

Every relationship needs time and effort and becomes richer and more rewarding when given that. What relationships in your life would you like to improve? What could you do about it? Even taking a moment to caress a family member on the face or arm as you speak to them before whizzing off to the next “chore” can make them feel more loved and wanted until you can make more time.

Having made time for those we love, who are, after all, one of our biggest reasons for existing and sources of personal happiness, we need to ensure we COMMUNICATE effectively. So many relationships struggle because folk are talking but not really hearing or understanding each other, and often what we think we have said is not what has really been heard or understood.

One of the golden rules of relationships is that if it's important enough for you to be upset about, it's important enough for you to address and talk about. Many people have recurring conversations about themes that crop up again and again and sometimes one partner will not want to discuss the matter AGAIN. The fact is that couples will never see eye to eye on everything and that’s OK, but you can talk with a positive spirit of moving forwards and allowing the relationship to grow rather than in a negative spirit of blame and point scoring. The same goes of course with relationships with children, teenagers, parents, and friends where perhaps emotions are not quite so high but the potential rewards still are.

As a Life Coach I help folk with all sorts of aspects of relationships including confidence, communication, parenting, forgiveness, self esteem and many more, but the one I want to throw in last today especially in these times when the deluge of depressing news seems endless is simply to remember to HAVE FUN!!

Surely one of the lessons we have all learned over the past couple of years is that Life is NOW.

You may have heard the saying that “families who play together stay together” and this goes for all relationships. Taking the time to play with your children is far more important than that extra hour at your desk working on a project that will be forgotten about in 6 months time. It’s very easy to allow ourselves to get bogged down in all the “have to’s” and “ought to’s” in life especially when we’re working and raising a family.

But when you’re looking back on your life in years to come I’m sure you’ll agree that it’s the happy times having fun with loved ones that will have enriched your time on this earth, even (dare I suggest it) if you didn’t get that pay rise for another year.

So make the time to enjoy your loved ones – partners, children, friends and all those important personal relationships, make sure you really communicate with them and don’t be trapped into game playing and point scoring and most of all “have fun”! Be willing to make it up as you go along. Be willing to let your heart play a bigger role. Be willing to admit that you don't know what you're doing and be willing to take a chance.

Like many of the best things in life relationships can be challenging and it’s often helpful to talk to someone outside your circle of friends or family when trying to resolve relationship issues, perhaps even more than any other area of your life.

If you would like a commitment-free, no obligation, chat with me about relationships or any other area of your life please e-mail me on Amanda@WiseLifeCoaching.com and we can set up a free 20 minute consultation. If you’d like to find out more about me and how I can help first please take a look at my web site www.WiseLifeCoaching.com. I look forward to hearing from you

HOW ARE YOUR PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS GOING?

FORGIVE me for asking you such an intimate question but with summer holidays upon us it feels like a very important time to focus on relationships.

And I’m going to add a little twist… after all it’s not just our relationships with our Significant Other that are important but also our relationships with our children, our parents, our friends, and most of all our relationships with OURSELVES! Relationships are integral to the work I do with nearly all my clients and it might surprise you to hear that, once we resolve a person’s inner-dilemmas and relationship with themselves, other relationships generally fall into place far more smoothly.

What we learn as children about happy life-long relationships comes mainly from our parents and how they relate to each other and to us. But sadly these are not always positive lessons so sometimes as adults we need to consciously think about how we relate to those we love. Otherwise, even if we think we’re chugging along just fine we can be hit with nasty surprises in our relationships that perhaps we simply didn’t see coming.

So let’s look at 3 areas which can have the biggest positive effect on our relationships beginning with TIME. In the early days of our relationships we typically put plenty of time and effort into a relationship but once the “prey is caught” we often fall into the habit of coming home exhausted and irritable, collapsing with relief that “at least I can relax now and don’t have to make an effort”. Maybe we barely notice our partner in the chaos of dinner, kids activities and other domestic demands. Or maybe we have one child in a family whose needs seem to outweigh those of other family members so the other children or your partner get less attention as a result. If so taking action to redress the balance can really enhance the lives of everyone.

Every relationship needs time and effort and becomes richer and more rewarding when given that. What relationships in your life would you like to improve? What could you do about it? Even taking a moment to caress a family member on the face or arm as you speak to them before whizzing off to the next “chore” can make them feel more loved and wanted until you can make more time.

Having made time for those we love, who are, after all, one of our biggest reasons for existing and sources of personal happiness, we need to ensure we COMMUNICATE effectively. So many relationships struggle because folk are talking but not really hearing or understanding each other, and often what we think we have said is not what has really been heard or understood.

One of the golden rules of relationships is that if it's important enough for you to be upset about, it's important enough for you to address and talk about. Many people have recurring conversations about themes that crop up again and again and sometimes one partner will not want to discuss the matter AGAIN. The fact is that couples will never see eye to eye on everything and that’s OK, but you can talk with a positive spirit of moving forwards and allowing the relationship to grow rather than in a negative spirit of blame and point scoring. The same goes of course with relationships with children, teenagers, parents, and friends where perhaps emotions are not quite so high but the potential rewards still are.

As a Life Coach I help folk with all sorts of aspects of relationships including confidence, communication, parenting, forgiveness, self esteem and many more, but the one I want to throw in last today especially in these times when the deluge of depressing news seems endless is simply to remember to HAVE FUN!!

Surely one of the lessons we have all learned over the past couple of years is that Life is NOW.

You may have heard the saying that “families who play together stay together” and this goes for all relationships. Taking the time to play with your children is far more important than that extra hour at your desk working on a project that will be forgotten about in 6 months time. It’s very easy to allow ourselves to get bogged down in all the “have to’s” and “ought to’s” in life especially when we’re working and raising a family.

But when you’re looking back on your life in years to come I’m sure you’ll agree that it’s the happy times having fun with loved ones that will have enriched your time on this earth, even (dare I suggest it) if you didn’t get that pay rise for another year.

So make the time to enjoy your loved ones – partners, children, friends and all those important personal relationships, make sure you really communicate with them and don’t be trapped into game playing and point scoring and most of all “have fun”! Be willing to make it up as you go along. Be willing to let your heart play a bigger role. Be willing to admit that you don't know what you're doing and be willing to take a chance.

Like many of the best things in life relationships can be challenging and it’s often helpful to talk to someone outside your circle of friends or family when trying to resolve relationship issues, perhaps even more than any other area of your life.

If you would like a commitment-free, no obligation, chat with me about relationships or any other area of your life please e-mail me on Amanda@WiseLifeCoaching.com and we can set up a free 20 minute consultation. I look forward to hearing from you